Archive for April, 2011

There’s this saying I’m sure you’ve heard;

“Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.” 

Mark Twain is credited with these particular words but similar quotes are out there including an almost identical one from Abraham Lincoln.  Even the Bible gets into the act with;

“A fool’s mouth is his undoing and his lips are a snare to his soul” Proverbs 18:14.

Yeah that’s a good one.  So here’s the thing.  I don’t generally consider myself a fool but then I open my mouth and well, you know, stick my foot in it.  While I am sure I am not the largest shareholder in the pharmaceutical company researching a cure for “foot in mouth” disease, I am a major contributor.  Let me share a few of my past donations.   I once told a friend to “not have a nervous breakdown” because he had just gotten divorced and on the seating chart I had put Mr. and Mrs.  I found out later he actually had a real nervous breakdown and had just recently returned from time off due to that breakdown.  (Yes really!)  Number two: I once joked to a fellow preschool parent that my plan to prevent my daughters from dating was the cupcake diet.  You know, keep them overweight so they don’t date.  (Yes I know it’s awful.  I was overweight and didn’t date often.)  His daughter was chubby!  Stupid, Stupid, Stupid! I know there are more but I seemed to have blocked out the rest, suffice it to say that due to my penchant for humor through sarcasm and exaggeration I have spent many sleepless nights writhing in regret because I said something thoughtless or stupid.

Now personally I believe the Universe (the powers that be, God or whatever you choose to call your higher power, I choose Universe because I like the idea that I have an entire universe on my side rather than just one overworked deity.  To me it makes God seem bigger and as you can see from my above mentioned talent, I need Him to be really big) Anyway, I absolutely believe the Universe allows things to occur and gives us skills which communicate messages about how we should live our individual lives.  So what is my message?  Shut the hell up?

See now there’s the problem.  I’m a talker.  I have been a middle school teacher and substitute middle school teacher for going on 20 years. (Sorry but I stop at 20)  In middle school if you want to survive you talk and you talk fast.  If you’re lucky somewhere in your incessant babbling they will come away with something valuable.  When I left teaching to have a family I noticed how out of control my talking was.  I was so concerned with being funny, entertaining, or imparting some sort of wisdom that I seemed to have lost my ability to listen.  I spend more time planning my witty responses rather than truly listening to what is being said to me. 

So this is my goal, to practice “quiet wisdom”, to be quiet, listen more, maybe gain a bit of wisdom, think before I speak and hopefully spend less time beating myself up for what I say to others.   And in an attempt to connect to myself and others I’m putting this on the web.

Really?  I’m putting this on the web?  Maybe I haven’t thought this through.


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Just So You Know

Just plain Quiet Wisdom was taken so I added the noisy fool.  While it may be true I’m hoping that by the time I’m done with this blog I won’t be such a noisy fool.

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